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Why do I almost always get into flame wars? Or why do I have this "affinity" towards arguing with someone who doesn't make sense, or makes sense but has an attitude?

It must say a lot about my personality, and I hope I can understand myself more. Perhaps I can control this, but everytime I try, there's flamebait waiting for me to bite into. And almost always, I get into an email exchange on a public list arguing about technical issues (and not so technical issues) while keeping myself amused and on-topic.

Perhaps I never really got over the debating days in high school...

CHill! (yeah, I should...)

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  1. AnonymousFriday, September 01, 2006 9:03:00 AM

    I know of people who are far more intelligent and have done much more in C and C++ and haven't flaunted them. You have become a flame bait personified.

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  2. Dean BerrisFriday, September 01, 2006 11:43:00 AM

    Okay, Mr. Anonymous Coward... Maybe it's because I'm more articulate than other people "who have done much more", but I certainly have not claimed that I have done a lot (or enough).

    If sharing thoughts and experiences seem like flame bait to you, then either you have issues or it's the Filipino crab mentality at work.

    Suffice to say, now I'm starting to understand why some people look at me as live flame bait.

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