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spontaneous combustion

have you ever tried to be spontaneous, and at the same time calculatedly cunning, cool, and well planned to make your move? well believe me, i have and i really liked the feeling.

asking for a girl's number is something not easy to do for a guy like me who isn't really handsome by my standards - so this poses a big self esteem issue, but i dont lack confidence in myself (makes sense?). but asking for two girls' numbers, is a gargantuan gamble to take, especially on foreign and unfamiliar territory. but now i can really say that yes - really worth the gamble.

it's worth the gamble not because i got to gain new contacts (who are really good looking by the way) but mainly because it gives me a really big boost in not only self esteem and confidence, but also by the way i gauge my capabilities in socializing and conversation. i always knew that i could socialize, but never did i think that i could pull something like this off. and so much for trying, results speak for themselves. and now, im still bathing in the cool confidece showered by this experience.

my intentions were not mainly the confidence thingy, but were more of gaining new friends, and extending my contacts as far as i can. i'll never know when i'll be bumping into them so might as well be prepared and in good terms with them if we ever do. but i am sure, i'll try my best to as much as possible keep connected with them and hope that i'll be able to get to a situation wherein i'll be able to meet them again.

and while at it, i'll be enjoying the activities that i really like doing, and make the most out of it - and maybe that's why my life seems to get more interesting by the day for me at least. :-)

until the next blog... i'm out! :-)

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